10 Things I’ve Learned from Three Failed Marriages, Part 7: More Do, Less Talk

Photo courtesy of taliesin at morgufile.com Was lightened slightly.

Doing Is Better Than Talking

Do something every day to show you love your wife. Talk is nice (and cheap), but doing is even better. After all, actions really do speak louder than words, especially in the area of romance.

For instance, you might offer to help her with the dishes, providing she hasn’t already hoodwinked you, . . . er, convinced you it would be in your best interest, . . . er, asked you to help her. Or you might ask if there’s anything she would like you to work on.

Of course, the downside of this is: If she tells you something you could do, then you’d better do it . . . with cheerfulness. No eye-rolling, whining, wheedling, nor any other self-serving mechanism to avoid an unpleasant task. If you don’t sincerely want to help, don’t ask.


10 Things I’ve Learned from Three Failed Marriages, Part 6: Respect! Respect! Respect!

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Respect! Respect! Respect!

One of the most important things you can do in your marriage is to respect your partner. Without respect, you have no relationship. Well, you may have a relationship, but it won’t be a happy one.

Respect is a complicated subject, so we’ll start simple. What does it mean to respect?

Turning to dictionary.com, my usual source for simple definitions, we find:

verb (used with object)
9. to hold in esteem or honor: I cannot respect a cheat.
10. to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone’s rights.
11. to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person’s privacy.

What does it mean, to hold someone in esteem or honor?

10 Things I’ve Learned from Three Failed Marriages, Part 5: Ditch the Procrastination

Originally I had written another subject for part 5 but wasn’t totally pleased with what I had written. Consequently, I had never gotten around to finishing it. In short, I procrastinated. I’ve even procrastinated this version!

While procrastination is something one can get by with while writing, at least to a point, it is not something one wants to do in a marital relationship.

Procrastination in a relationship is bad for a number of reasons. Here are a few.

Procrastination lessens the trust your spouse will have for you


New Blog: Barns! Barns! Barns!

I’ve started a new photographic blog and you’re all invited to join in for the fun. This blog is about preserving a way of life that is fast becoming extinct: the family farm.

I’ve just posted my first posting and invite you all to participate. You may find my new blog at: https://barnsbarnsbarns.wordpress.com/

I hope to see you there. I’d love this to be a repository for all things old with respect to family farming, not just buildings.

“The Johnstown calamity”

"The Johnstown calamity. A slightly damaged house." Photo by George Barker, 1889. Photo courtesy of the Library of Congress.

I ran across this photograph from the Library of Congress newsletter and thought I’d share it with you. I’ve seen plenty of devastation photographs, but this one is unique. I’ve never seen anything like it.

When I looked up the tragedy on the Internet, I was surprised to learn that the Johnstown, Pennsylvania calamity was caused by a flood, rather than from a tornado, as I had previously thought.

A dam holding back an eight by three mile wide mountain lake broke and almost completely wiped out a city of 25,000 residents. For a summary and a New York Times account of the disaster, go to an account of the Johnstown calamity.

If you look closely, that looks to be a Pennsylvania Rail Road car underneath the house. You’ll note the initials “P.R.R.”. Apparently, Johnstown was an important hub for the railway, according to the article, “How Johnstown Made Its Living, Part 2”.

The town did rebuild, by the way, and celebrated the calamity’s 100th anniversary in 1989, according to the “calamity” article.

A note regarding the photograph: The original was very dull and without much contrast, so I lightened it up some and added some contrast to make it more appealing, at least as appealing as a disaster photograph can be.

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