How do you define beautiful?

Diane Owens

Guest blogger Diane Owens of In My Opinion…
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How do you define beautiful?
This is a big question. This is a question where everyone in the world would probably have a different answer.

So, then what is beautiful? How can one define this word? I do not understand how the dictionary even has a definition because in my opinion beauty is something different to everyone. There are so many words that have these set definitions in this book that has guided us all of our lives. Such words as: truth, perfection, right, wrong and love. To me they can only be defined individually, not as a whole for everyone to believe is right and there is no bending.

Beautiful is a person being completely true to self.
Beautiful is having the ability to carry love in your heart at all times even when everything seems to be going wrong.
Beautiful is opening up your mind and learning as much in this world as possible.
Beautiful is always striving to be better.
Beautiful is inspiring others.
Beautiful is being scared to death but being courageous all at the same time.
Beautiful is admitting your flaw and faults but not allowing them define you.
Beautiful is you being the only person to define you, no one else.
Beautiful is having strong convictions and beliefs but still being open to others points of view.
Beautiful is acting with kindness and compassion.
Beautiful is putting others before yourself.
Beautiful is accepting yourself.

You may not be thin or the most successful person in school or where you work but you are still one of a kind. Knowing and believing that is beautiful.

Beauty is everywhere in this world, around every corner and behind every door. We sometimes just have to take off our judgmental glasses to see it. What does not fit our mold may be perfect for someone else.

We live in this society where there is a really warped idea of what beautiful really is.
Who do you surround yourself with?
How do they define beauty?
Do you agree?
If not, it may be time to reevaluate your settings and who you surround yourself with.

Take a second and reflect back on your childhood (probably up until about 3rd grade). What you looked like and what you wore did not matter. How much money you had was insignificant. Everyone was your friend (for the most part). All that mattered was having fun and enjoying life.

Life should not be any different but unfortunately it is. BUT, you can always make a choice as to how you view things and how you want to react to them.

There are a lot of in-your-face questions that can be asked here:
Do you enjoy allowing others to define you?
Do you believe that being beautiful means being tall and thin?
Have you ever met someone with great physical attributes but a really ugly personality?
Is this person still beautiful to you?

How many times have you actually met someone like that? I have met several people like that. They try to get through life on their looks, and some of them may for awhile but looks fade.

I have met men before that have been extremely handsome (at least they appealed to my eye) and as soon as they spoke they immediately lost all beauty and wonder. Their arrogance and ignorance became a major turnoff. They were unable to see anything outside of themselves and in my opinion that is probably one of the most UN-Beautiful qualities a person could have.

I am a nanny for twin girls that are one. They turned one on Christmas so I always call them the Christmas miracle babies. Before I put them down for their nap I was playing on the floor with them, bouncing them on my lap and twirling them around.

Beautiful is the innocence a child holds on their face. If only we could have the same curiosity and wonder that small children have. Everything in their world is exciting and new and they love it all. Something so small can hold their attention forever.

It is nice to be an adult in some ways but if you think about it, children are the ones that really understand the true concept of beautiful. Everything to them is beautiful. Children have these beautiful ignorant and naïve way. Those two words usually come with a negative connotation but there have been plenty of times I wish I was naïve or ignorant because that way I would not know about how ugly the world can truly be sometimes.

True beauty
By Jean Pullman

True beauty is in the way she laughs
True beauty is in her eyes
True beauty is how she acts

True beauty is inside
True beauty is unseen
True beauty is only felt

True beauty is not mean
True beauty is herself
True beauty can’t be cruel

True beauty is bare
True beauty within you
True beauty is always there

True Beauty can’t be covered with makeup
True beauty means true love
True beauty can’t be baked up

True beauty is the flight of a dove
True beauty has no flaws
For True beauty is all that matters after all

Thank you, Diane. That was truly beautiful! No kidding.

11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. A New Chapter!
    Feb 13, 2012 @ 09:58:17

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE this :0)


  2. nelson RN
    Feb 15, 2012 @ 03:22:46

    Nice post! Indeed this is the way we should define beauty.


  3. sonsothunder
    Feb 16, 2012 @ 01:48:07

    Oh, but there is one absolute Truth…and that is absolutely true Love, and defines beauty. Right? or Wrong?


  4. wfoster2011
    Feb 17, 2012 @ 04:59:13

    This poem made my day. Thanks so much and keep up the good work.
    Bill Foster


    • Cris
      Feb 17, 2012 @ 13:16:05

      Thanks, I’m glad, and thanks for stopping by and Liking Diane’s post. I think she did a good job in nailing down the subject in a few, short words, considering books have been written about the subject. 🙂


  5. diggingher
    Feb 20, 2012 @ 06:36:31

    What an encouraging and beautiful post. I never read this poem before but very much enjoyed. Thanks for the share.


    • Cris
      Feb 21, 2012 @ 10:31:35

      I’m glad you enjoyed it. Diane did good work in expressing herself and the poem was an added “punch”. I hadn’t read the poem before, either.


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